Life is tough when coming to making decisions, mindset is busy with lots of voices pointing you to another direction, busy thinking and thinking over and over again till we reach to a level of overthinking.
The question is what do we tend to do in this situation?
Everyone has their own way to take decisions, though I will point to sit back and do not make a decision just yet. In fact, the decision you would make with a busy mindset would be a wrongful and regretful decision that will impact you in the long-term.
Therefore, assure to have a clear mind, close your eyes, take a deep deep deep breath and meditate, go for a walk, do something you like, break your diet and eat what you enjoy. Let the day pass by without loud voices competing against your decision making. Next day have a pen and paper list down your pros and cons to decide!
Still can’t decide? Then wait and take your time you can always pause.
Ready? Decide! But be aware now after making your final decision you should be ready to accept all consequences you will pass by no regret can be made!
Upmost would define self-care as beauty, hygiene etc. in this context the main focus of self-care is based on feeding your inner-self with positive vibes, removing toxic people from your life schedule, and giving yourself the opportunity to free your mindset in order to refresh your soul. Having said that, being able to achieve a better care to yourself it will initiate in enhancing the effort you put in reaching and achieving your goals also it will enhance the way you care for others.
Self-care has four dimensions your physical, emotional, social and spiritual. Being able to balance all four dimensions at once will indeed boost your inner-self and outer-self. In other words, whatever you feed your inner-self with it will have a significant reflection on your outer image and behavior to yourself and to others.
Let us see what steps can we take in each self-care dimension:
Physical – Assure to have enough sleep and rest, eat healthy, go for a walk and/or exercise and do yoga. In general, practice activities that would have a significant impact to your health and well-being.
Emotional – Manage your stress by not stressing on everything that are rather simple, be kind to yourself and others, learn to forgive and heal yourself from the past live today as it is and prepare for tomorrow since today’s actions would have an impact on your tomorrow.
Social – Surround yourself with people with positive vibes, if you need help seek for help from the right people, entertain yourself by surfing the internet on positive news, funny videos and/or quotes, and motivational stories.
Spiritual – Always allow yourself to have time alone, meditate from time to time that can be done through yoga as well, have a daily journal to write and express your feelings through it, have faith tomorrow is going to be better, have a sacred space depending on how you would like to define sacred space.
To be a good parent, brother, sister, friend, partner you need to take care of yourself in order to have the physical and emotional energy to take care of others, provide others the best of you instead of what is left from you. Be sure It is not selfish of you to prioritize your self-care and happiness upon others it is rather necessary to do so.
Be versatile and flexible, have gratitude for any situation you are put in as hard as it could hit you be resilience by taking baby steps to healing, we are all humans and humans are characterized and known for being fragile.
Imagine taking an egg throwing it on the floor or hitting it to something as short as the distance might seem it will eventually crack completely. However, taking an egg adding it to a water and allowing it to boil it will end up being so hard it will crack from the outside but not from the inside.
Now take it this way, every situation you have faced, still facing, and will face in future assure it will make you a stronger person than you used to be, as fragile as you get like an egg before it has been boiled in water easily cracked and completely cracked, living the situation living the moment of horrendous feelings can easily break you. But, imagine yourself like an egg in water the more it boils the harder it gets the more you experience those feelings the stronger you get, you will be cracked from the outside the tears and faded expression but from the inside with time it will be very hard to break you under one condition though, taking your time to healing before throwing everything behind your back.
In fact, if you decided to move forward without healing with time it will hit you back and break you even more than it would have on spot, it will continuously flashback causing you pain and despair. Once you adapt to the situation and heal you will be able to move forward any future flashbacks will make you feel a bit upset but it will not cause you as much pain as it did earlier.
Be as hard as a boiling egg, do not be fragile as a raw egg.